Healing: An Unpredictable Process

My husband is a trained scientist. His first view of the world is very concrete, analytical, mathematical, and scientific. His process is perfected and repeated. His initial tendency is to follow a strict, outlined process to come to a definitive conclusion.

I don’t operate from that perspective, and I’m still working on maintaining my expansive view while also being able to dial down to the intricate details. I work from a view of what is possible. My view tends to be imaginative in nature, posing questions of, “But must it be done THIS way? Why not another way?”

After a decade of marriage to my analytical husband, I recognize this expansive view can sometimes feel frustrating. It ignores a lot of what IS happening. It ignores the mess of human reality. It ignores pain, trauma, and toxicity.

However, maybe “ignore” is not the most appropriate term. Perhaps, “looks past” is a more effective alternative. This expansive view looks past our current reality in order to see a new reality forming. In order to do that, the expansive view must be imagined, then dialed down into our reality so that it can be manifested into creation.

To be successful with this, we have to hold onto what we want our reality to be while also honoring what our current reality is. Most individuals are incapable of doing both, so the need for collaboration, cooperation, and communication is an absolute necessity.

This is the current level of growth that I see humanity needing. I’ve mentioned it before and I’ll mention it before. We must release the “me only” mentality. It’s rampant, even among healers, helpers, and spiritual leaders. This mentality has served them, no doubt, but it is no longer serving the collective. It must be released. Learning to listen and respond, work together, and align on our goals is now imperative for human survival. I hope we move to rise up to this space.

I need people that can focus on details. I need people that can take an idea and put concrete steps into place. I need people that understand my vision and help create the process. I need people capable of taking a message and spreading it. I am a visionary. I am not a scientist. I am not a mathematician. It takes profound effort for me to do these things, while I can witness others doing it effortlessly.

This parallel relationship exists in all people. All people lean more in one direction over another. It does not make one person better than another, but it honors your intrinsic abilities so that you can find the right people to collaborate and align with to meet a joined goal.

For this to work, though, we each must focus on our healing. This is how we can create the spaces that are needed. This is how we lay the foundation necessary for our survival. It begins in our individual healing. It moves into our collaborative healing. It deepens as our relationships deepen. When we start understanding ourselves we become more responsible for our thoughts, feelings, and energy. We shift into compassion and love. This process brings us to a new level of consciousness and knowing.

We choose to let go of “me” and move into “we.” Me is a refusal to empathize and understand. We is an understanding to listen, understand, and maintain personal autonomy. It’s possible. It’s my vision. It is coming.

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